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what's up everyone welcome back to the
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lose weight by eating podcast I'm your
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host Audrey John's and this week I've
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got no script truth be told I never have
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a script but usually I write like an
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outline of what I want to talk about and
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I thought it might be fun to just be me
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and and chat with all of you about
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morning routines um for those of you who
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have a very hectic morning this can be
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helpful or you can take these ideas and
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move them to maybe after work or right
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before bed either way I hope that they
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will really help you my first note I
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want to hit on is when you start your
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day off eating really
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healthy it's really easy to stick to
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your plan all day and that's one of the
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biggest reasons why I want to talk about
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morning routine I want to kind of go
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through my morning routine with all of
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you and explain why it's been so
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important to my success in weight loss
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and healthy eating and you know all of
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that so for those of you who who have
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heard from me a lot you know I love my
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coffee so typically what my morning
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routine looks like is I get up and I
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enjoy my coffee some days especially the
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days that I have to bring my kiddo to
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school that enjoyable coffee moment is
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significantly shorter but more often
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than not I really just try to honor the
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fact that I love my coffee and I'm going
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uninterrupted um this is something I've
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been doing for about the last couple of
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months I used to jump on Facebook and
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start responding to everyone's comments
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right away and I found that I wasn't
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really undering what I needed and that's
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kind of going to be the whole theme of
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how I set up this morning
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routine so I get up I enjoy my coffee
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and if that takes an hour cool if all I
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have is 15 minutes that works too but I
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really try to enjoy that moment know if
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coffee isn't your thing it could be
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reading the paper it could be playing
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with a pet or taking a walk with a pet
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or braiding your your daughter's hair or
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you know whatever you genuinely enjoy
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and you don't want to miss out on make
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that your biggest priority in the
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morning next I change into my workout
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clothes unless I have my kiddo going to
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school that morning typically then I'm
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enjoying my coffee in my workout clothes
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and I go to the gym if I have to bring
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my daughter to school I'll bring her to
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school and then I'll go to the gym and I
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really try to recommend uh as much as
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possible if you're new to exercise just
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do something you like it doesn't have to
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be the hardest most effective exercise
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it's just about getting in the routine
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of going on a regular basis now for
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those of you who can't afford a gym
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membership you could go for a walk you
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could do a YouTube video there's lots of
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great easy low impact even seated yoga
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for those of you who maybe can't
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exercise very much that I make that a
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then I come home and I make myself a
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really healthy breakfast I've been stuck
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on and I'll put a link in the show notes
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but I've been stuck on making my I make
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this wonderful omelette with feta
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because I love feta I love a really good
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salty cheese it's the best way to start
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the day is having something I really
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love so The Omelette has some spinach I
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cook down the spinach take it out of the
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pan add the eggs then add the feta salt
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and pepper lots of red pepper flakes cuz
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I like it spicy and then you know
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continue making um the The Omelette but
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I have found that on the days that I
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have this really healthy breakfast and I
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really honor what I want to have it's
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really easy to stay on plan for the rest
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of the day and then from there I get
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ready for the day and and I
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so what I want to really chat about and
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like I said I typically have a whole
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plan and I'm always looking at my notes
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and and really trying to bring you this
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succinct uh podcast episode if it feels
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a little disjointed you know this is
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works but what I was Finding is my job
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is really busy so I have the website I
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have the Facebook page and I respond to
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everybody I have two podcasts and I'm
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working on another really big project
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that I don't want to jinx so I'm not
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going to talk about it quite yet until
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it's all buttoned up but I basically do
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the work of three people in any given
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day I work seven days a week um on the
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weekends I'm really only managing the
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Facebook page but I am working from the
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moment I wake up to the more moment I go
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to bed on Facebook and if if you're on
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there you've seen the comments you know
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I'm checking in and posting
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regularly so I really had to find a way
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to honor what I needed because what I
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was doing was I was getting up in the
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morning and starting work right away I
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was working working working all day very
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often not feeding myself when I needed
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to be fed or grabbing something that was
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maybe a little bit less healthy than
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having and then I would get all the way
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to the end of the night and I still had
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not done selfcare and some nights I
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would get it done but most nights I
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wouldn't and as a mom all of you other
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parents out there I'm sure you can
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understand everything takes a back seat
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to your kids and to their needs and
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there's something really beautiful in
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that but it's not always
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sustainable and I was breaking I
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exhausted I was dealing with
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depression all of these things are
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things that we we all suffer with we all
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have this come up in our lives and it
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wasn't until I joined a gym and started
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trying to make my my gym membership
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worth it that I realized you know I'm
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not honoring what I need first I'm
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honoring at last and with that I'm not
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taking good care of myself and when you
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don't take care of yourself especially
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when you're a single parent nobody else
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is going to take care of of you and
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you're going to become exhausted and
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you're going to feel run down and you're
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to not eat healthy you're going
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to not show up for your kids maybe as
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much as you'd like to everything else
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kind of starts to slip when you don't
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take care of yourself and so what I
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decided was I was going to move all of
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my self-care to the beginning of the day
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now again I get that not everybody can
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do that you know I have a lot of nurses
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and teachers and people who have a
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really rigorous early morning that they
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just have to get through you can
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absolutely take this honoring yourself
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and maybe doing it right after work
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maybe before you go home or on your way
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home or part of your wind down right so
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what I recommend doing
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is move your self-care your taking care
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of yourself to as early as you possibly
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can in the day and if possible start
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and if that seems really difficult just
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try it on your weekends and see how you
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feel see if you can just kind of show up
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better and deal with stress a little bit
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better this is really really been
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working for me and I almost talked about
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it last week but I wanted to bring it to
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you because I felt like this little aha
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moment I had for myself I feel like it
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everyone so try to move all of that
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self-care Behavior to as early as you
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can in the day and if you can't at the
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very least having the healthiest
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breakfast that you like having the
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healthiest breakfast you can will set
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you up for Success all day long so on
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the lose weight by eating website I love
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to do copycat recipes so if you're like
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no I want a donnut it's not healthy I've
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got two different doughnut recipes on
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there for you I've got a strawberry
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doughnut with chocolate on it gosh it's
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so good and then I just have a
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traditional white doughnut um with the
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pink frosting I would I grew up mostly
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living in the back of a doughnut shop my
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my family my grandparents owned Fosters
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Donuts in SEI Valley and I know all of
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first birthday parties are all there and
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I basically grew up there you know no
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surprise I ended up having a weight
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problem later on but I get it and the
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pink Donuts were always my thing so you
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can find those if you're more of a
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Savory eater we've got the low calorie
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protein Bagels we've got Bagel
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sandwiches breakfast sandwiches all
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kinds of omelets you can find all kinds
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of healthy breakfast that you will
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actually crave and really really want on
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the website so I recommend if everything
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else about eating healthy and exercise
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and you know all of those points are
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just too much to handle just start with
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breakfast because just that healthy
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start for the day will get you set up
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for the rest of the day you're more
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likely to stick to your healthy eating
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plan when you've already done it one
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meal so that's what I really recommend
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if you typically go through a drive room
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I recommend meal prep your breakfasts
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ahead of time the breakfast sandwiches
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are on the website they're great I'll
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make sure to put lots of links in the in
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notes but they're like a minute and a
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half and you're done in the mornings if
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you meal prep them ahead of time so I
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really recommend try it for a week and
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really be present and notice is this
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helping me is it easier to stay on plan
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because we all want some kind of a
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weight loss shortcut and this is a great
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way of doing it just start the day off
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well and it will make the rest of the
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easier now I wanted to talk to you about
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showing up for yourself and self-care in
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kitchen the well I started this podcast
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with a lot of different thoughts a lot
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of different for lack of a better word
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agenda and it kind of quickly morphed
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into self-care in the kitchen and I'm so
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so glad it did because I love the
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self-care movement and I love the
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self-love movement and I love the body
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movement but I don't love the self-love
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means I can go through a drive-through
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breakfast lunch and dinner is that's not
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really loving yourself if you want to go
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through a drive-thru once a week as a as
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a free meal by all means do it but
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self-love and self-care is really about
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honoring your body and what you need
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and we don't need drunk food three meals
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a day we need healthy food and I
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healthy is self-love cooking yourself a
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self-care so I really kind of want to
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try to reframe that in this podcast and
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if you've been listening for a long time
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you know I've been challenging you to
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challenge me about it and to comment and
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you know help me through this journey
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because it's something I'm working on as
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well bringing self-care into the kitchen
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body positivity can also
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be I'm eating healthy and you know I'm
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okay with the cellulite and I'm okay
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with the gray hairs you know I love
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myself as I am but I also want to take
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good care of myself because I love
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myself as I am does that make sense so
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I'm really hoping that you can take this
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challenge of moving your self-care to
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the beginning of the day because in that
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energy the most important thing you can
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do is show up for yourself and when you
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show up for yourself it's so much easier
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to show up for your kids to your spouse
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to your friends to your parents to your
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family to your pets to your work
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colleagues it's so much easier to show
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up for everyone else when you were taken
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care of and I want to talk quickly
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about expecting others to take care of
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us it's wonderful if you have a spouse
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or a family member who takes care of
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you but it shouldn't be
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expected it's kind of like that saying
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that happiness is an inside job it's not
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my partner's job to make sure that I'm
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happy it's my job to make sure that I'm
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happy happiness is an inside job and
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therefore taking care of myself is an
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inside job if he wants to call the house
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cleaner and have her come and clean the
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house to take care of me if he wants to
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make me dinner to take care of me these
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are all wonderful loving acts and it's
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great and I encourage them just case if
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listening but I have to take care of
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myself I can't expect someone else to do
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that how would you feel if your spouse
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or if your parents parents or your adult
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expectation that you were going to pick
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up the pieces for them at any given
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moment and hope and and expectation are
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but let me give you an example years and
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years and years ago I I lived with a
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he had quite the lead foot as do I and
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if you got pulled over by a cop
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it was my fault because I didn't warn
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him that the cop was there is that
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fair I didn't notice either but it's not
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my fault you've got to take care of
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yourself you have to take accountability
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yourself it can't be your partner's job
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to make you help happy it cannot be your
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partner's job to take care of you this
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is your job it's your job just like it's
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not your job to take care of them so
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take care of yourself first and or make
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priority and you will find that you will
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naturally show up more for them you'll
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have better relationships and you'll
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have a better peace of mind that I can
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take care of myself and I would love to
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hear from all of you please feel free to
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leave comments um either here on my
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Facebook page I answer all of them I'd
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love to hear how you feel about this
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because again happiness is an inside job
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and expecting someone else to do it for
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you will only lead to disappointment and
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possible fights and that's just that's
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something we can easily avoid by saying
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you know what I need to do self-care I'm
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going to get up 30 minutes
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early or I'm going to be home 30 minutes
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late after work because I'm going to
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show up for myself I hope all of that's
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resonating with you so now I want to go
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over a few different
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ideas for setting up a morning routine
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that can help you lose weight or
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maintain weight or just eat healthier or
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make a better example of yourself to
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your children first of all I
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recommend for sing in the morning do
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something that brings you
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Joy and that can be playing with a pet
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like I said reading the newspaper having
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your coffee un interrupted and if you
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have to get up 30 minutes early to do
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it this will be invaluable to you once
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you try it for a week or for a month
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you'll realize you know yeah I could
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have used 30 more minutes of sleep but I
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feel better showing up for myself every
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single morning and you know if 30
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minutes is too much what about 10
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minutes so start the day
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off feeding yourself quote unquote start
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the day off taking care of you and a lot
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of people tend to do this before their
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kids get up and for moms with Littles I
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know this can be tough this could be as
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easy as taking a shower with the door
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closed you know if you have to let them
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watch TV or play on the iPad so that you
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can have a little bit of Peace it's 10
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minutes it's 20 minutes you know hot
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shower with some music playing in the
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that could be enough for you it could be
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the coffee it could be going to the gym
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but try to find a way to give yourself a
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minimum of 10 minutes in the morning for
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selfcare and if you're not sure what
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that is write down 10 examples of
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self-care that you wish you could
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do so selfcare can be meditating
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journaling could be putting your makeup
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on brushing your hair and stying it it
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could be praying if that's your thing it
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could be reading the Bible reading a
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book reading a newspaper it could be and
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I know this one's hard in the morning
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but if it's summer and you know you want
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to it could be polishing your nails or
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toenails it could be any of these things
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but whatever makes you feel better
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yourself in that day that's what
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self-care is and a big part is just
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so try it this weekend or next
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weekend try to start your day
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off taking care of yourself and for the
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women out there with men in their lives
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help and if you say hey honey I need
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your help with something men love to
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appreciated say hey honey I need to to
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show up better for myself this weekend
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I'm going to try this thing out I heard
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on this weird podcast and I'm going
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to meditate in the morning could you
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please kind of keep the kids away for a
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little bit or could you please give me a
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little bit of space to do this men women
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are the same way and you know no matter
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what your household situation is even
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kids will give you what you
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need and you know if they won't give you
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the space say you know Mommy's going to
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meditate right now you're welcome to
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you may not interrupt
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me so either you can go and watch TV or
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play in your room or play on your
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iPad or color or whatever it is that
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your kids genuinely love to do maybe
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give them that free pass in the morning
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even if it's something that you only
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occasions or say join
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me this could all be really great if you
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have a gym membership and you've got the
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kids find out if they have a kid program
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where you can bring your kids in so
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there are a lot of different ways that
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you can practice self-care first thing
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morning and next I kind of want to talk
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about setting up a schedule so for those
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of you who who watch or listen both
20:45
podcasts you know I interview a lot of
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people from a lot of different cooking
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reality shows if you have not listened
20:52
to the podcast I think you might love it
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it's called who's reality cooking wh
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apostrophe s um and on make sure to add
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some show notes on that
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so I interview these people
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and I I'm exhausted afterwards in fact I
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just did one with um someone from is it
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cake season 3 and I went into the
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meeting with a migraine thankfully I had
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taken some medicine right right
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beforehand and halfway through it kind
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of went down often I'm exhausted after
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these these interviews because I'm
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really trying hard to sh show up I'm not
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just being the host and the
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interviewer I am also managing all of
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this stuff on this side and and trying
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to help them showcase themselves as best
21:42
possible and I'm just exhausted
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afterwards and I finally set a boundary
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with myself that I am not going to do
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any interviews before noon I am going to
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get all of my other work done and or
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self-care and or respon to messages or
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getting ahead on this or getting ahead
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on that but I'm I'm taking this piece of
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my work that is so draining and trying
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to move it to a point in the day where I
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excuse but to take care of myself
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first I get that not everybody's job can
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that but as I keep saying you always can
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do self-care on the way home or as soon
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as you get home let's talk about that
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for me bringing my work home is there's
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no way I'm ever going to be able to get
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out of it right this is something I'm
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always doing but for so many of you this
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the whole work culture has become you
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need to be available all the time and
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with that said most of the time you
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probably aren't getting messages after
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hours but you feel like you keep needing
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to check right and so we don't really
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separation between work at home and this
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is a really great spot in between work
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and home to kind of shake things up to
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trick yourself to trick your mind into
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okay work mode is off if my boss sends
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me a message I can quickly answer it or
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tell him you know tell them that I'll
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get back to them tomorrow on it or
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whatever works but we need to find some
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way to kind of buffer it
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because we are really bringing our work
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home a little bit too much and never
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really turning that piece of our lives
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off so going to the gym on the way home
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great going home and you know changing
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into some comfy clothes and maybe
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soaking your feet if you wear high heels
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all day long you know in a nice little
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EPs and salt bath that could be some
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great self-care that kind of breaks that
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up if you just don't have time listen to
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a podcast in the car that maybe you
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really really love or listen to your
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favorite music in the car and sing along
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something that my therapist and I have
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been working through is um stimulating
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the Vagas nerve and this is all very
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medical you know I'm I'm trying not to
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get too new Agy on you this week I think
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I kind of hit you hard with it last week
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I did not get a a great response from it
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and that's fine but your Vegas nerve
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actually is a if you can stimulate your
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Vegas nerve you can reduce stress and
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anxiety and that's what we're working on
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she's given me all of these different
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great exercises to do like if you're
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watching on YouTube if you turn your
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head like if you kind of lean your head
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up that's a great way until you kind of
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feel a release then you do the other one
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and I'll do that from time to time but
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I'm not great at remembering to do it
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and when she said singing no matter how
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bad your voices uh mine is really bad
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but singing along with music in the car
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can actually help to reduce stress and
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anxiety and it could be a really great
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way for you to break up your day and say
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okay I'm not at work now this is my
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transition point in between work and
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homik so that when you do get home you
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can show up better so for those of you
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who do not have time in your day to work
25:19
in self-care work it in on your way home
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from work in the form of listening to a
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podcast or a book on tape or singing
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along to music in the car call a
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friend you can do self-care in the car
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but no matter what what I really want to
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impart this week what I really want to
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encourage you to do for yourself is make
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self-care a priority this week and just
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feel I pretty sure you will agree that
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it just makes everything just that much
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please please find a way to work
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self-care in it can be as easy as
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calling your mom on the way home from
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friend and you can get up early and get
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it done ahead of time in the form of
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meditation enjoying your coffee I like
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to listen to the Norah Jones station on
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Pandora I am of that age where I still
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listen to Pandora don't worry I listen
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to Spotify on my phone the gym you know
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it can just be having that cup of coffee
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in the morning and listening to some
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soothing music also binaural music is
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really great and you can do that while
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you do something else and it's great
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self-care so you can put your earbuds in
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because with binaural music you really
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want to try to kind of tune out
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everything else you you put the put the
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earpods in or the headphones on and go
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on YouTube and just type in binural B I
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and u r a l I believe
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check out all the different kinds of
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binaural music there can be binaural
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music for energy and it helps it's like
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a shot of espresso I have absolutely
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tried it um you can do it for stress
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reduction you can do it for basically
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any issue you have there will be a free
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binaural music on YouTube and so listen
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to that maybe while you cook dinner um
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you can do it while you're at the gym I
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love to multitask at the gym and
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speaking of if you get responses on
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morning 100% I'm at the gym while I'm
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responding to you I love to kind of
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double down on things and so listening
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to binural music is great for self-care
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and you can do it while you're doing
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other things if you take a walk with the
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dog put in your earbuds listen to
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binaural music as you walk um if you
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ride a a bus or a train to and from work
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here's another great opportunity by
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neural music so I hope I've given you
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some good examples of working self-care
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into your day I know it seems strange
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that this podcast is about a weight loss
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morning routine and I'm talking about
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self-care but it all really comes down
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to this is what genuinely works if you
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show up for yourself if you make a plan
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to show up for yourself and for what you
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need every single day you are much more
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but if you say if I have time I'll get
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to the gym if I have time I'll meditate
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if I have time if I have time if I have
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you're never going to have time if
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you're putting it off to be the last
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thing of the day so I challenge you to
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make the time for one week and see if it
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helps I'll make sure to put some yummy
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recipe links in the show notes
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especially my feta and spinach omelette
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it's so good I highly recommend that you
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add thoughts of red pepper flakes to it
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if you like spicy food as I do be sure
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to check out last week's episode I would
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love to hear your thoughts on that it's
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all about manifesting for weight loss or
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prayer for weight loss depending on what
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you feel more comfortable with and I
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amazing weight loss self-care self-love
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eating healthy podcast episodes for you
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to listen to here at the lose wayi
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eating podcast I will chat with you next
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week I hope you have a wonderful day
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yourself please take care of yourself
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remember happiness is an inside job